They are either unhealthy or healthy, productive or unproductive, primary or secondary, direct or indirect.
We might come to think of emotions as purely relevant to just ourselves, but we just need to ask people who are close to us – those in our families and those we work with – and we immediately discover that our emotional worlds are interconnected.
This is always a boon for others, and it is usually manifest in the ability and practice of getting the log from our own eye.
An example of this is rather than diverging to anger, we go into our sorrow. There are a lot of things that make us feel unhappy in life. Sadness is not the enemy. Sadness is an invitation to recovery.
Our psychological worlds are interconnected. If we admit our hurt, experiencing God’s understanding, our compassion is available to all.
But if we’re unhealthy, and therefore unproductive, emotionally, we could cost individuals people who are close to us, which is always expensive to us. We accost them with our unkempt emotions. We spew over them all sorts of vitriol, because rather than looking at our own crap we prefer to notice what our eye doesn’t see very well – that little speck in them, so far as we’re concerned – God wants us focused on how we can love better, not how they might be missing the mark.
We take what makes us unhappy, and rather than looking intently in our sadness, which is pain, and instead of staying in that location we flee from pain. And the only way we could reconcile it’s to blame somebody else. We go from the core, primary emotion of sadness, which is justified and accurate, however painful, and instead of going deep into it to be free in the practice of acceptance, we have a shortcut and rationalise the pain as not just excruciating and unthinkable and unpalatable, but also as absurd and unfair and unwarranted. Somebody must pay! And how confident we become. It’s a trick played on our vision. We are seeing the wrong things.
Our psychological worlds are interconnected.
If we’re hurt, and we remain unaware, we hurt others.
All of us have one of two ways to go in dealing with our emotions. We go the right way or the incorrect way. We’ve got all had a taste of moving the wrong way. We have all responded out of the wrong kinds of emotions. We have all taken our anger too far, not to mention having gone the path of anger when more correctly it could and ought to have been prolonged sadness to the destination of approval.
Few of us enjoy going to painful places. And I know I am not among those few who seems to delight in pain. Yet I really do enjoy, at a deeper level, the treatment of God, as He interacts with me when I’m honest enough to experience my sorrow.
The actual practice entails coming to a place of complete defeat.
Christians call it surrender.
If this sounds defeatist, you need to understand that it isn’t. It’s the most amazing thing to accept that which we cannot change. While I admit defeat and give over those desires of mine which have become demands, it’s like God says,’Finally, I have something to work with in you. Finally, you are weak enough to listen. Finally, you are weak enough to embrace My strength. Finally, you accept that it is best for you and for all concerned for you to do My will.’
Honesty is your open door to reconciling our emotions and our relationships.
Coming to the place, which is a feeling of despair in oneself, is precisely the purpose of the Christian walk.
The grief comes first, then it’s life as God scoops us up in our spirit.
In our pride, which prioritises our secondary emotions like anger which won’t acknowledge the truth, we’re struck out before we take the first step toward first base.
However, as soon as our pride is dealt with, and we realise that these primary emotions are nothing to fear, because the pain is bearable even when it feels unbearable for a time, we enter the safe sanctity of God and His deeper therapy for us.
The benefit of this is not only ours, but it is to everybody’s advantage within our orbit of influence, especially for Merrit Island Rat Removal.