Many people will have observed the Real Housewives series of programs or seen the press and magazine coverage of the antics and lifestyles. The tales of these’real housewives’ and WAGs may fill us with a combination of horror, envy and disdain as we see their documented choices and excessive ways, particularly as they are often seen as role models for young girls. We might speculate that their more outrageous behavior is done in order to keep public attention and help fortify their celebrity status.
However, if we dig a bit below the surface, behind the glamour and glitz, we can see that actual housewives have their own concerns, worries and issues. Indeed, some are residing personal emergencies, making life-changing decisions as well as with their time on the series to raise their public profile and gain exposure for their own existing businesses.
Oftentimes’Real Housewives’ can seem detached from reality and normality, residing in a continual flurry of visits to expensive stores, restaurants and beauty salons. Maintaining such a high-profile lifestyle involves plenty of pressure to maintain appearances and be seen to be living the fairy tale existence. Being photographed partying, drinking cocktails, possibly spending their spouse or partner’s money in a whimsical self-indulgent flurry of action, bickering over trivia, appearing to sulk if they are not treated to appropriate gifts or get what they want can cause them to seem spoiled, selfish and childish.
We have no doubt noticed in magazines and on social websites how many of the younger WAGs and Real Housewives appear to look the same, morphing into each other with identi-kit hairstyles, dress styles, breast sizes, sporting smooth, wrinkle-free faces and pouting lips. Often one is indistinguishable from the other in a group photograph. This may be their aim, providing reassurance that they’re doing it right, following the right guidelines to be part of the elite, exclusive group, much like young children who need to wear the very same brands so that they feel that they belong.
But these choices can indicate insecurity about using an individual look and identity. If they looked or behaved differently what would be the consequences, are they fine, good enough? They may live in constant fear of their appearance altering, of putting on a little weight, of finding a gray hair or the tiniest wrinkle. How could a person find the time to retain their nature and identity whilst still maintaining constant surveillance over every aspect of their image.
Whenever we choose to judge someone else it’s necessarily done from our own perspective, but when we go through tough times, hard feelings and pain it is a really personal, relative experience. If we dismiss or belittle another individual’s problems, efforts or situation because of their apparent good luck, attractive appearance, wealth, status or perceived lucky breaks we’re doing them and ourselves a disservice. Deep down most people need love, kindness and acceptance; we crave reassurance that we’re okay.
As a true Housewife there’s continual pressure to look the part rather than age. Maintaining this has to become onerous, dull and exhausting at times. All facets of their life, their wardrobe, personal fitness sessions and treatments can fill each day, becoming a fulltime job. Frequently everyone else has an opinion, wants to give their advice, become part of the group, so presenting a magazine/Stepford wife persona, living the fantasy.
Then you will see her transition and become more than her public persona. In leaving her character from the show she can reclaim her name, set her identity and be recognised for her talents and attributes in her own right, no longer part of the brand! Make sure to leave her Melbourne Wildlife Removal number for when a wildlife issue arises.